solved Creating a module to change from the Follow model to the Friend model

<?php
/**
 * @copyright xxxxxx.
 */

// make sure we are not being called directly
defined('APP_DIR') or exit();

/**
 * meta
 */
function xxFriend_meta(){
    $_tmp = array(
        'name'        => 'Friend',
        'url'         => 'friend',
        'version'     => '0.0.1',
        'developer'   => 'Elise, ©' . strftime('%Y'),
        'description' => 'When a follow request is accepted, the user follows the requester back.',
        'category'    => 'profiles'
    );
    return $_tmp;
}

/**
 * init
 */
function xxFriend_init(){
    //register event listeners
    jrCore_register_event_listener('jrCore', 'db_update_item', 'xxFriend_follow_request_authorized_listener');

    return true;
}

/**
 * Listens for when a user accepts a Follow request
 * Update the user to immediately follow the requester back 
 * @param $_data array Array of information from trigger
 * @param $_user array Current user
 * @param $_conf array Global Config
 * @param $_args array additional parameters passed in by trigger caller
 * @param $event string Triggered Event name
 * @return array
 */
function xxFriend_follow_request_authorized_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{
    return $_data;
}

function xxFriend_follow_request_authorized_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{
    if ($_args['module'] == 'jrFollower' && 
            jrCore_checktype($_args['option'], 'follow') && 
            jrCore_checktype($_data['__ajax'], '1') && 
            //profile_id
            isset($_data['_1']) && 
            jrCore_checktype($_data['_1'], 'number_nz') && 
            //requester user_id
            isset($_data['_1']) && 
            jrCore_checktype($_data['_2'], 'number_nz')) {
    

    return $_data;

function xxFriend_follow_request_authorized_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{ 
    if ($_args['module'] == 'jrFollower' && 
            isset($_args['option']) &&
            $_args['option'] == 'follow' &&
            isset($_data['__ajax']) && 
            $_args['__ajax'] == '1' &&
            //profile_id
            isset($_data['_1']) && 
            jrCore_checktype($_data['_1'], 'number_nz') && 
            //requester user_id
            isset($_data['_1']) && 
            jrCore_checktype($_data['_2'], 'number_nz')) 
    {
      
  
    }

    return $_data;
}

function xxModule_my_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{
    fdebug($_data, $_args);
    return $_data;
}

<?php
/**
 * @copyright 2016 Talldude Networks, LLC.
 */

// make sure we are not being called directly
defined('APP_DIR') or exit();

/**
 * meta
 */
function jrFriend_meta(){
    $_tmp = array(
        'name'        => 'Followers to Friends',
        'url'         => 'friend',
        'version'     => '0.0.1',
        'developer'   => 'The Jamroom Network, ©' . strftime('%Y'),
        'description' => 'A listener module. Upon follower acceptence, it reciprocates the follow.',
        'category'    => 'custom',
        'requires'    => 'jrFollower',
        'license'     => 'jcl'
    );
    return $_tmp;
}

/**
 * init
 */
function jrFriend_init(){
    // Update Item listener
    jrCore_register_event_listener('jrCore', 'db_update_item', 'jrFriend_db_update_item_listener');

    // Create Item listener
    jrCore_register_event_listener('jrCore', 'db_create_item', 'jrFriend_db_create_item_listener');

    // Register our friend tools
    jrCore_register_module_feature('jrCore', 'tool_view', 'jrFriend', 'approve_set', array('Set Approval', 'Set all site profiles to \'Follower Approve\''));

    return true;
}

//----------------------
// EVENT LISTENERS
//----------------------

/**
 * Update item listener
 * @param $_data array incoming data array of item including original owner profile and user IDs
 * @param $_user array current user info
 * @param $_conf array Global config
 * @param $_args array of new owner profile and user IDs
 * @param $event string Event Trigger name
 * @return array
 */
function jrFriend_db_update_item_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{
    if ($_args['module'] == 'jrFollower' && jrCore_checktype($_args['_item_id'], 'number_nz') && isset($_data['follow_active']) && $_data['follow_active'] == 1) {
        // Its a follow accept - Let's reciprocate
        $_rt = jrCore_db_get_item('jrFollower', $_args['_item_id'], true);
        $_tmp = array(
            'follow_active'     => 1,
            'follow_profile_id' => $_rt['_profile_id']
        );
        jrCore_db_create_item('jrFollower', $_tmp);
    }
    return $_data;
}

/**
 * Create item listener
 * @param $_data array incoming data array of item including original owner profile and user IDs
 * @param $_user array current user info
 * @param $_conf array Global config
 * @param $_args array of new owner profile and user IDs
 * @param $event string Event Trigger name
 * @return array
 */
function jrFriend_db_create_item_listener($_data, $_user, $_conf, $_args, $event)
{
    if ($_args['module'] == 'jrProfile' && jrCore_checktype($_args['_item_id'], 'number_nz')) {
        // Its a profile creation - set follower approve to 'on'
        $_data['profile_jrFollower_approve'] = 'on';
    }
    return $_data;
}

<?php
/**
 * @copyright 2016 Talldude Networks, LLC.
 */

// make sure we are not being called directly
defined('APP_DIR') or exit();

//------------------------------
// approve_set
//------------------------------
function view_jrFriend_approve_set($_post, &$_user, &$_conf)
{
    jrUser_master_only();
    jrCore_page_include_admin_menu();
    jrCore_page_admin_tabs('jrFriend');
    jrCore_page_banner('Set Follower Approval');

    // Form init
    $_tmp = array(
        'submit_value'  => 'Set Approvals',
        'cancel'        => "{$_conf['jrCore_base_url']}/{$_post['module_url']}/admin/tools",
        'submit_prompt' => 'Are you sure you want to set all your profiles to Follower Approve?',
        'submit_modal'  => 'update',
        'modal_width'   => 800,
        'modal_height'  => 400,
        'modal_note'    => 'Please be patient whilst group discussions are alternatively imported'
    );
    jrCore_form_create($_tmp);

    $_tmp = array(
        'name'     => 'dummy',
        'value'  => 'off',
        'type'     => 'hidden'
    );
    jrCore_form_field_create($_tmp);

    jrCore_page_display();
}

//------------------------------
// approve_set
//------------------------------
function view_jrFriend_approve_set_save($_post, &$_user, &$_conf)
{
    jrUser_master_only();
    jrCore_form_validate($_post);

    // How many profiles are in the system?
    $pcnt = jrCore_db_get_datastore_item_count('jrProfile');
    jrCore_form_modal_notice('update', "Setting {$pcnt} profiles to 'Follower Approve'");
    // Get all their IDs
    $_s = array(
        'return_item_id_only' => true,
        'limit'       => $pcnt
    );
    $_rt = jrCore_db_search_items('jrProfile', $_s);
    if ($_rt && is_array($_rt) && count($_rt) > 0) {
        $_tmp = array();
        foreach ($_rt as $rt) {
            $_tmp["{$rt}"] = array('profile_jrFollower_approve' => 'on');
        }
        jrCore_db_update_multiple_items('jrProfile', $_tmp);
    }
    else {
        jrCore_form_modal_notice('update', "Error: Profiles not found");
    }
    jrCore_form_modal_notice('complete', "Done");
    jrCore_form_result();
}