Modern Responsive design examples
Ning To Jamroom
This is the main thing keeping me from moving over, which I badly want to do.
Jamroom seems to have a great set of tools, excellent customer service, and a future I can trust. But I haven't seen a site that doesn't look dated and visually unattractive, and my users care about that (so I care about that).
The best sites I've been able to find look years old even if they are brand new. I'm doing homework on buddypress and services like that (which are worse) only because of aesthetics and end user experience. I can't be the only person with this hesitation, especially since so many Ning users were excited about the new design center they were rolling out.
I'd pay good money to move the second I saw a skin/theme/design that excited me, and anyone up to the challenge can feel free to contact me.